Penelope Buschman with Columbia University School of Nursing says it's important for the caregiver to take care of him or herself.
"Find assistance, take a little bit of time out to exercise, to see friends, to schedule some time away."
You shouldn't feel guilty about this. If you do Buschman says you need to deal with those feelings.
"The only way to continue to be able to provide care and to have the strength and energy to do that is to replenish one's own resources."
She recommends joining a support group to deal with that guilt as well as the isolation and loneliness caregivers often experience.
"It has a psychological benefit, a social benefit and many times a spiritual benefit."
Many of the organizations that deal with chronic and advanced illnesses have care giver support groups
For more information
AARP: 'Caregivers, Youre Not Alone
Take Care of You: Self-Care for Family Caregivers